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Throw Away The Wedding ‘Rule’ Book – Part 2

When I’m approached by couples at wedding fairs, my first question to them is usually, ‘Are you getting married in church?’  If they are not, then my next question is to determine their next step, which is usually to book a registrar.  Many couples have not heard of, or considered the services of a wedding celebrant and therefore are unaware of just how flexible and personal their wedding ceremony can be, without the constraints of a standard registrar service.

Below I reveal yet more reasons why a celebrant ceremony is so liberating and provide you with some alternatives to the ‘standard’ wedding rule book.

Throw away the rule book part 2. wedding celebrant, celebrant ceremony, personalised wedding, walking down the aisleMost brides will probably want to be escorted down the aisle (for support and to ease the nerves if nothing else).  Traditionally, of course, it’s Dad that has the honour, however there are many circumstances where perhaps he is not the chosen one or is not involved at all.   What I’m saying is that anyone can be the escort – your best friend, your mum, sibling, grandparent or even your child.  And if you want to go it alone – take centre stage and go it alone!

Furthermore, there is no need to be “given away” at all, if that doesn’t suit you.  An alternative might be to give the close family and/or friends of both the bride and groom  the opportunity to affirm their love of the couple and to promise to continue to provide love, guidance and support in their marriage. They can do this as a group, or individually. Standing, sitting, walking with you, gathered around you in a circle. Whatever is in your head and your heart, can be recreated on your wedding day. Just talk to me about your ideas.

Celebrant or Civil? Choosing the Right Ceremony for You

If you’re not particularly religious or just want something a little less traditional than a church wedding, then we are here to share the other choices of ceremony and celebration available to you…

To put it as simply as possible, a celebrant wedding is completely personal to you.  Your words, your thoughts, your feelings, delivered by someone who you have chosen because they will be able to replicate it all in a way that represents you both as a couple.  Moreover the ceremony can take place anywhere, yes anywhere even on the moon if you could get there. So if you and your partner have always wanted to get married amidst the bluebell woods where you first met, or on the edge of the sea in your first holiday spot, then with a celebrant wedding, you can!

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A civil ceremony has to take place in a venue that is licensed to perform weddings.  These venues can be the most wonderful, unusual places or in your local Registry Office but, in either situation the ceremony is scripted.   A celebrant ceremony doesn’t have to stick to a set script; your wedding really will be personal in every way.

Currently a celebrant wedding is not legally binding, so you will need to visit your local Registry Office before your ceremony to make it all official.  There’s also a few other legal bits you need to do before you marry, but this can all be explained to you either by your wedding celebrant or the Registrar.

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Once that’s all done, you are free to challenge all the stereotypes of a wedding. Throw caution to the wind.  Follow your soul.  If your thing is the beach – have your ceremony on the beach, if it’s your home, have it at home.  To all intents and purposes you are getting married where you want to and how you want to.  Surrounded by all your loved ones, your favourite people, your animals, involving them in your very personal day with as much interaction as you like, in a place that it is deeply personal to you, listening to music which has meaningful association with experiences and moments.

So, which kind of ceremony are you thinking of having for your wedding? Are you already married; tell us how you tied the knot! And if you have some ideas that you want to chat through, please get in touch.