At the beginning of May this year I presented a ceremony for Nikki and Steve. The venue was a marquee in the field on the family farm of Rose, Nikki’s childhood and bestest friend. This farm was a place where she always felt welcome. A home from home. Rose has played and continues to play a huge part in Nikki’s life, and we included a short paragraph in the script celebrating their special friendship.
When I met with Abbie and Luke to discuss the detail of their script it became very apparent that they both had an incredible bond with their mothers. Rarely are there occasions when one can publicly express one’s love and thanks to a parent, but a celebrant ceremony provides just that opportunity.
When I tell people what I do for a living. Nine times out of ten they are intrigued. The conversation follows a very similar pattern. We go through what a celebrant is. And then almost without fail I’m asked, ‘what do you wear’? My staple answer is a nice dress and to make sure I never upstage the bride or groom’s mother!
So as summer draws to a close and autumn is beckoning as a part of our new regular Fanfare Favourites blog I thought I’d focus on some sunny elements.
I recently shared a post on Facebook about a couple who met at Glastonbury who then had their wedding ceremony there this year. What a brilliant idea and of course a celebrant-led ceremony could be held at any festival that you particularly love because no license is required.
Are you thinking of getting married in a faraway exotic location but don’t want to use the venue’s prescriptive script? Or perhaps you have a friend or family member you would love to present your wedding ceremony here at home but don’t want to give them the added pressure of writing the script? In either of these situations you may be interested to hear that I offer a script only service.
Over the years I have collected quite a selection of inspirational music. Some well-known ones but also some slightly more obscure pieces. Being a music fan, I particularly like lyrics to songs and find incorporating them into your wedding ceremony, either as part of your vows or as a reading or musical interlude, the perfect way to say something beautiful if you are struggling to find the words yourself.
On 14th April this year, I headed to Starcross Yacht Club and presented a Naming Ceremony for Tim and Shiona’s beautiful daughter Ula. This was a double celebration as it was also Ula’s first birthday the following day.
Both Shiona and Tim have a massive affinity with the sea and many happy days have been spent by them at the yacht club. It was therefore a perfect venue for Ula’s Naming Ceremony and goodness what a setting it was.
I think the shipping forecast would have used words along the lines of a south-westerly 3 or 4 rising – good for sailing but rather brisk conditions for a naming ceremony right on the edge of the estuary (I’ll know not to wear a wraparound dress another time on a blustery day in such an exposed location– thank heavens for the safety pins in the yacht club’s first aid box!).
It was a real family affair with all hands-on deck (spot the sailing pun) with a bit of a retro feel (I very happily joining in the fun – I haven’t stuck cheese and pineapple on a cocktail stick for a long time) to get everything ready for the feast that was to follow the ceremony.
Ula, which in Celtic means ‘jewel of sea’, surrounded by her parents, guide parents, family and friends was as good as gold. The ceremony included two wonderful readings ‘Before you came’ by Beverley Butcher, read by her uncle and ‘You are my I love you’ by Maryann Cusimano Love, read by her Great Aunt. We celebrated her actual naming, Ula Petrea Julia, by a rapturous three cheers followed by some energetic bubble blowing.
All in all, the happiest of days and my one and only Naming of the year. I hope I am asked to do another soon.