When I’m approached by couples at wedding fairs, my first question to them is usually, ‘Are you getting married in church?’ If they are not, then my next question is to determine their next step, which is usually to book a registrar. Many couples have not heard of, or considered the services of a wedding celebrant and therefore are unaware of just how flexible and personal their wedding ceremony can be, without the constraints of a standard registrar service.
Below I reveal yet more reasons why a celebrant ceremony is so liberating and provide you with some alternatives to the ‘standard’ wedding rule book.
Most brides will probably want to be escorted down the aisle (for support and to ease the nerves if nothing else). Traditionally, of course, it’s Dad that has the honour, however there are many circumstances where perhaps he is not the chosen one or is not involved at all. What I’m saying is that anyone can be the escort – your best friend, your mum, sibling, grandparent or even your child. And if you want to go it alone – take centre stage and go it alone!
Furthermore, there is no need to be “given away” at all, if that doesn’t suit you. An alternative might be to give the close family and/or friends of both the bride and groom the opportunity to affirm their love of the couple and to promise to continue to provide love, guidance and support in their marriage. They can do this as a group, or individually. Standing, sitting, walking with you, gathered around you in a circle. Whatever is in your head and your heart, can be recreated on your wedding day. Just talk to me about your ideas.