To some, renewing one’s vows might appear a bit showy, indulgent or even soppy, but actually it makes a lot of sense. A love that withstands the test of time; the ups and downs that life can throw at you and come out the other side the same or even stronger, is a union that is truly worth celebrating.
The exciting ‘puppy love’ at the outset of a marriage develops into a more profound alliance with time. The closest thing to that much-used expression ‘unconditional love’ is still sharing that love after years of living and being together, seeing and accepting every mannerism, habit and idiosyncrasy; however maddening.
This rollercoaster life not only shares special memories and joyful experiences but also endures the stresses and strains of everyday life, financial worries, ill health and more. Then, for many, the introduction of children is thrown into the mix, with the inevitable changes in the dynamic that this causes. A vow renewal ceremony provides an opportunity to reaffirm and celebrate an ongoing commitment as well as a pledge of continued love.
So when do you renew your vows? There are, of course, no hard and fast rules for this but for me 10 years is perfect if the circumstances are right. The notorious 7-year itch has been survived and it is a significant landmark in any relationship.
A renewal of vows ceremony celebrates the longevity, commitment, dedication and cohesiveness of love. You could use the same vows you took on your wedding day or add new ones to reflect your personal journey and the joys and tribulations you have shared. Many couples will include their children in the vow renewal too, uniting the family even more. You may wish to wear a more simple gown or this could be the chance to wear the dress you always wanted to and never did. You and your partner may yearn for peace and privacy and seek a very intimate renewal in your favourite holiday spot or this could be the excuse for that big reunion party you have been meaning to plan.
Whichever way you choose to celebrate your love for each other, the ceremony will be filled with warmth, feeling and fun and is surely one of the sweetest things a married couple could ever do.