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Throw away the wedding rule book

Throw Away The Wedding ‘Rule’ Book – Part 1

A celebrant wedding can be a truly liberating experience. No matter what you have been told, or your parents or grandparents did in the past, YOU can literally do what YOU want to do. Buck the trend, call it what you like. Don’t be influenced by what has been done before or worry if it’s OK to do it this way or that; if you want to do it differently go ahead. Here are my suggestions of some alternatives to the more traditional wedding element.

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When your family is big or you have lots of friends, choosing who is part of your bridal party, can be a difficult task and normally ends up with someone feeling left out or upset. Well guess what? There is absolutely no need for you to have a bridal party. If it’s just too hard to choose who should stand with you, consider viewing ALL your guests as your bridal party. Alternatively, maybe you want the only people to be at the front and centre during this important moment to be the two of you and your celebrant. Feel happy and proud to stand up there together, just the two of you.

You don’t have to make a grand entrance. You may find that way too nerve-wracking. If you just want to enter together supporting each other. Do it. There is no rule that says the groom has to be the one nervously waiting for the bride to turn up, and no rule that says anyone has to walk down an aisle. Indeed, if you’re having a more relaxed, casual wedding, you both may want to be in attendance to greet your guests as they arrive, and just get the ceremony started when it feels right.

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The layout of the ceremony does not have to be the traditional format of the couple in the middle with their guests sitting in rows, like in a theatre. Why not seat your guests in a giant circle of love around you both.

Here’s a thought – why is it only the bride who gets the big entrance? How about the groom making one too, with or without his best man, accompanied by some pretty cool music?

With a celebrant ceremony there are no rules; just what matters to you both. It’s your day and we can create something truly memorable and special. More ideas to come in Part 2 of this blog post…

Twelve Alternatives to Confetti

Have you ever wondered why we throw confetti at a wedding?  Historically, this is an Italian tradition where couples were showered with grains and rice to bestow prosperity and fertility. The tradition carried to other countries and many still throw rice or coloured paper.

alternatives to throwing confettiSource: Lavender, Love, Snow, Bubbles, Sparklers, Flowers, Lavender, Glow Sticks

Some venues would prefer that the wedding party do not use confetti, or more specifically rice, but there are a lot of alternatives that are bang on trend at the moment…

  • Rose petals – my personal favourite. They are natural, smell and look heavenly and wonderful in photographs.
  • Lavender – another very popular option and of course beautifully scented eco friendly to boot.
  • Bird seed – a good alternative to rice as its meant to be harmful for birds, eco friendly and possibly may suit you.
  • Paper planes – great for the children and hours of entertainment making them before the big day.
  • Glow sticks – look awesome when leaving at night and photograph well too
  • Pom poms – cheap to purchase and colourful and won’t hurt when they are being hurled at you
  • Balloons – all your guests release them as you pass by and provide a brilliant blast of colour
  • For good luck, paper horseshoes or 4 leaf clovers
  • Fake snow – for a winter wedding wonderfully effective in photos
  • Bubbles – perfect for a venue that won’t let you throw anything. They create no mess and are a fun way of involving all your guests.
  • Beach balls – of course for a beach wedding
  • Sparklers – a little complicated in the execution but another awesome way of leaving your ceremony at night.

alternatives to throwing confettiSource: Beach Balls, Bird Seed, Airplanes, Horseshoes, Bucket, Cones, Rose Petals

If you are going down the more traditional confetti route, a wonderful way to present it whether petals, lavender, dried flowers, is paper cones. Make them from doilies (or off cuts of vintage paper), shaped into a cone and pinned with a piece of ribbon or tied with raffia.  You can create petal cones from any style of paper, music sheets, transparent paper, pages from favourite books. Hand them to your guests as they leave the ceremony or hang them from each chair, with ribbons.

I’d love to share your confetti shots on my social media pages. Please feel free to visit my Facebook and Twitter and let me see you under your confetti shower!