Why did I become a Celebrant?
The simple answer is, because I am dealing with love and meeting people at the most loved-up time in their life. It is impossible not to make it sound anything other than corny, but it truly is a beautiful thing.
I hear a couple’s story and I can help them tell it however they like. Love is beautiful – actually, that doesn’t even come close to describing it. And I make no apologies for getting caught up in experiencing a moment that is amazing. I’m not, and I will never be – a ‘robotic’ celebrant. I can’t imagine being a part of a wedding – where two people are expressing their enduring love for each other – and not being affected by it. I’ve learned to take my own advice – I tell my couples, when it becomes a bit overwhelming – take a deep breath – and soak in all the love that is around you. There’s a lot of truth in Wet Wet Wet’s song ‘Love is all around us’
I feel it in my fingers
I feel it in my toes
The love that’s all around me
And so the feeling grows.
I won’t go on but you get the gist. Don’t be ashamed if there are tears. They are tears of genuine joy, emotion and happiness and everyone will be touched. A moment’s pause may feel like a lifetime, however it reinforces that these special moments will last forever. In the words of Dr Seuss “Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory”
I’ve never considered myself as being overly romantic but I do think everything involved in the planning of a wedding is infectious, joyous and exciting. For me, I feel hugely privileged to be involved and trusted with a story. My couples share with me their most personal feelings and tell me about the most important people in their lives. It is a huge responsibility that I welcome and respect.
There is a powerful, infectious feeling of love, anticipation, excitement and I take the responsibility of my position very seriously and it’s not uncommon when a couple first contacts me – for them to ask for examples of previous ceremonies I have performed. I’m more than happy to do so… but it comes with a very specific direction: “Don’t focus on the words, focus on the intention.”
Why? Because when I write a ceremony, it’s a personalised ceremony… and it is completely and utterly customised to the couple who it is written for.
When the ceremony is over and ‘my’ couple immerse themselves amongst their nearest and dearest, I go home with warmth in my heart and a huge smile on my face. A job well done.