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10 Reasons Why You Should Choose a Celebrant For Your Wedding

When it comes to deciding where to get married, there is an array of choices available to you.  All of which have their advantages and disadvantages – whether that be down to availability, size, venue restrictions or religious beliefs.

Deciding on who should marry you, however, is still something that falls way down to the bottom of most couples’ wedding preparation priorities.  I hope to change that by giving you 10 reasons to choose a celebrant for your special day, rather than a registrar.

Barons Hill Barn weddingChoose a wedding celebrant if…

  1. Your perfect venue does not have a civil marriage licence. This could be your own garden, woodlands, a beach or an unlicensed wedding venue
  2. You don’t want to be restricted by the limitations of a licensed ceremony
  3. You don’t want to be married by a complete stranger
  4. You want to be married somewhere where all your friends and family can stay together i.e self catering accommodation
  5. You want to include a religious element within your ceremony but don’t want to get married in a church
  6. You want to be married outdoors without a permanent structure
  7. You want to be confident in the knowledge that your celebrant will have one booking that day and therefore there is no need to rush or fit in with a schedule
  8. You want a ceremony that has no template or standard script, no tick boxes or restrictions.
  9. You want to add a hand fasting, sand ceremony, religious or cultural element, to give your ceremony added personality
  10. You want your ceremony to be completely personal and unique to you.

So, now you know. Your wedding need not follow the same template or wording. Your ceremony will not feel rushed or conveyor-beltish. Your special day will be completely and utterly unique. If you have any other questions please, please do contact me via the website. I’m always happy to chat and help in any way I can.

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Music Speaks Volumes – Song Lyrics For Wedding Vows & Readings

I think song lyrics make the most wonderful readings, inclusion in your vows or simply beautiful, personal wedding music.  Some may need a little adapting and personalising, but here are two of my favourite to inspire you…

Miley Cyrus

I Adore you by Miley Cyrus

Are you listening?
Wondering, where you’ve been, all my life
I just started living
Are you listening?

When you say you love me
Know I love you more
When you say you need me
Know I need you more
Boy I adore you,
I adore you

Can you hear me?
When I’m crying out, for you,
I’m scared oh, so scared,
When you’re near me
I feel like I’m standing with an army
Of men armed with weapons.

I love lying next to you
I could do this for eternity,
You and me, were meant to be in holy matrimony
God knew exactly what he was doing
When he lead me to you

When you say you love me
Know I love you more
When you say you need me
Know I need you more
Boy I adore you,
I adore you

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Gorecki by Lamb

If I should die this very moment,
I wouldn’t fear,
For I’ve never known completeness,
Like being here,

Wrapped in the warmth of you,
Loving every breath of you,
Still my heart this moment – or it might burst.
Could we stay right here,

Till the end of time
Till the earth stops turning
I want to love you till the seas run dry,
I’ve found the one I’ve waited for

All this time I’ve loved you
And never known your face,
All this time I’ve missed you
And searched this human race

Here is true peace,
Here my heart knows calm,
Safe in your soul – bathed in your sighs
Could we stay right here

Till the end of time
Till the earth stops turning
I will love you till the seas run dry,
I’ve found the one I’ve waited for …

All I’ve known
All I’ve done
All I’ve felt
Was leading to this.

Keep reading our blogs for more wedding and vow renewal inspiration, to come.

Ann Kathrin Koch as featured on Rock My Wedding

Let’s Do It All Again – When & Why You Should Renew Your Wedding Vows

Ann Kathrin Koch as featured on Rock My WeddingImage via Rock My Wedding, by Ann Kathrin Koch

To some, renewing one’s vows might appear a bit showy, indulgent or even soppy, but actually it makes a lot of sense.  A love that withstands the test of time; the ups and downs that life can throw at you and come out the other side the same or even stronger, is a union that is truly worth celebrating.

The exciting ‘puppy love’ at the outset of a marriage develops into a more profound alliance with time.  The closest thing to that much-used expression ‘unconditional love’ is still sharing that love after years of living and being together, seeing and accepting every mannerism, habit and idiosyncrasy; however maddening.

This rollercoaster life not only shares special memories and joyful experiences but also endures the stresses and strains of everyday life, financial worries, ill health and more.  Then, for many, the introduction of children is thrown into the mix, with the inevitable changes in the dynamic that this causes.   A vow renewal ceremony provides an opportunity to reaffirm and celebrate an ongoing commitment as well as a pledge of continued love.

So when do you renew your vows? There are, of course, no hard and fast rules for this but for me 10 years is perfect if the circumstances are right.  The notorious 7-year itch has been survived and it is a significant landmark in any relationship.

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A renewal of vows ceremony celebrates the longevity, commitment, dedication and cohesiveness of love.  You could use the same vows you took on your wedding day or add new ones to reflect your personal journey and the joys and tribulations you have shared.  Many couples will include their children in the vow renewal too, uniting the family even more.  You may wish to wear a more simple gown or this could be the chance to wear the dress you always wanted to and never did. You and your partner may yearn for peace and privacy and seek a very intimate renewal in your favourite holiday spot or this could be the excuse for that big reunion party you have been meaning to plan.

Whichever way you choose to celebrate your love for each other, the ceremony will be filled with warmth, feeling and fun and is surely one of the sweetest things a married couple could ever do.

 

How to Wow with your Vows

8867bbb899d4f7a00f4eabe887a9c90bWhat would a wedding be, or mean, without the wedding vows?

The words you share with your partner; the love and commitment you express in the presence of your family and friends, are, after all, the whole reason the day is happening. And so often they are hidden behind the dress, the entourage, the inevitable hiccups, and the need for the ‘perfect’ wedding day – first look, first dance, bouquet toss, horse and carriage arrival; the list is endless.

For some though, putting feelings into words can be difficult and then becomes an additional worry and stress in the build up to the big day. For others, it might be that they don’t know how to be succinct whilst avoiding too much ‘cheese’.

What’s vital for vows is that you tell that person in front of you, why you love them; why you are promising to spend the rest of your life with them. It’s your wedding day, your love, your story and your feelings and all that should be expressed in the best possible way – in your words.

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This is something we think you should put some time, energy and thought into, so you can say something truly meaningful to the person you love. But if you are finding it hard to start, or you are feeling self-conscious, here are a few simple tips to help you create the perfect vows and have your guests reaching for their tissues!

  • Keep them short and sweet.  It’s terribly easy to get carried away once you’ve got started and end up pouring your heart out.  No more than a couple of paragraphs is honestly all that is required or it will verge on overkill or cheese.  Your guests don’t need to know every detail and you don’t want your guests zoning out.  If your creative juices do flow freely save some of the content and put it in a letter to him/her for them to read privately after the ceremony.  Alternatively, include it in the reception speech.
  • Say the things you would like your partner to say to you.  Write honestly, truthfully and authentically and, most importantly, how you would normally speak.
  • It’s not really the time to crack jokes.  By all means throw in a line or two reflecting your natural humour that your partner and guests will DEFINITELY find funny but it’s more important to focus on making it meaningful and genuine.  A chuckle rather than side splitting laughter.  Trying to be funny can unintentionally sound insincere very quickly which is the last thing your vows should be.
  • Keep your private lives private.  You and your partner may have the most fantastic and exciting times behind closed doors and that’s where it stays.  Definitely a case of too much information.  No one else needs, or wants to know and it’s not the moment for Grandma to have a turn and need to lie down with heart palpitations!
  • Remember the solemnness of the occasion.  This is not the moment for grand promises that you cannot keep.  If you hate football don’t promise him that you will go to watch his favourite team (not that he realistically would want you to anyway) or take up an interest of his that truthfully you have no real intention of doing so.  Inevitably one of you will let the other down.
  • Be real and avoid clichés at all costs.

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Starting is often the most difficult part.  Once you get going normally it will flow.  But if you really have hit a wall try and find a format you and your partner both agree on so that you have a bit of a template to work from.  Sometimes it helps if you know what your partner has written so that you are both on the same page.  It can help if you decide on things you both want to say such as

  • “I am standing here today because ……………………….. “
  • “I love you because ……………………………..”
  • “One of my best memories with you so far is ……………………….. “
  • “Since I have been with you I feel ………………………….”
  • “Because of you I feel …………………………………………….”
  • “I look forward to ……………………………..”

And finish with something along the lines of “thank you for loving me”

Alternatively, why not keep your vows secret from each other the impact of this can be awesome.  As your Celebrant I keep your vows to myself until your ceremony and then when the time comes it can induce goose bumps, tears, delight but always a totally memorable experience for all.

Your wedding ceremony should be a reflection of you, so don’t be afraid to ask your Celebrant questions about how to do that.

Encourage and support each other so give writing your vows a go!  You won’t regret it!  I hope this helps.  Now go make a start!!

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