Huge congratulations to you! You’re engaged!
Whether you were hoping for ages that it would happen or it was a complete surprise, once you have recovered from the euphoria of the proposal of marriage and a date has been set. you need to start to preparing for the big day.
You may have been dreaming forever of your fairy-tale, traditional wedding day, or you may be the type who wants to take off and be married on a beach somewhere tropical. Whichever way you lean, the heart of the matter is the union between you and your partner. The wedding day itself is the most wonderful excuse for a party and, if you are organised, there is no need for it to be stressful, but a truly joyful and exciting journey.
Get the ‘housekeeping’ stuff out of the way. Set the budget, open a wedding account and start saving towards the day. Assuming you are not flying off to the Caribbean and are marrying in a church or licensed venue, check availability for your preferred date. Venues, because they are licensed to perform ceremonies, will recommend you contact the Registrar as soon as possible, as they often get very booked up. Please remember you also have the option of a Celebrant who although cannot marry you legally at the venue, can perform a bespoke, personalised ceremony to include your children, family members, pets, your favourite song, words from poems you love; the possibilities are endless.
The beauty of using a wedding celebrant like me, is that once you have done the legal bits, you can have your perfectly personal, loving ceremony at your chosen venue. This is the heart of the day, the reason why you are both here and indeed why you want all your family and friends around you.
Notice given, venue and celebrant booked. Now the fun begins on the organising front. Food, gown, photographer, florist, stationery, transport, invitations.
During all the excitement stick to your budget and your guns; plan it the way you want to. Listen to advice, take some of it or all of it but always remember how excited you were when you were proposed to and don’t let that moment go. That is the essence of what this day is all about. Of course, you want everything to be perfect from the food to the music. It’s your marriage you are celebrating and that unique precious moment in the day when you exchange vows and the promises you make to each other, is the part that matters.